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  • My Daily Attitude Readjustment Project: How A Positive Mind Got Me Out of a Hole

    My Daily Attitude Readjustment Project: How A Positive Mind Got Me Out of a Hole

    I wanted to resurface this deeply personal piece around my daily attitude readjustment project that reflects on my journey of overcoming challenges and embracing a positive mindset. I’ve lightly edited the original article and updated it with additional resources to better support and inspire those seeking to improve their mental well-being. The original version was first published on October 19th, 2019.

    I have a few confessions to make. I’m not always the most positive person, in fact, I admittedly have pessimistic tendencies, but it’s something I work on every day. This must sound strange coming from the creator of a fitness and wellness brand, but it’s true.

    I’ve gone through ups and downs as I grow as a human, but not too long ago, I dug out of one of my deepest holes yet, and it was my attitude that saved me.

    Facing Rejection and Loss

    I had lost my dream job and was devastated. I lost a best friend too. And as all of this was happening a lot of my contacts were no longer there for me either. I was alone and was experiencing the most amount of rejection to date. I was very lucky to have my family, a couple of very tight relationships, and my health, but a lot of other things were completely going in the wrong direction.

    I thought I had peaked out. Hit my prime and everything was downhill from there. I thought my time had come and it had passed me by. That was the cycle of thought that repeated over and over in my head. And things only got worse from there.

    The Impact of Negativity on Health

    I got sick more often, I felt weaker, I didn’t want to work out as much, and when I did, I was killing myself. I got very sad and ended up in a deep, scary depression. I hid it to some extent and kept producing and fighting to be an inspiration that I always wanted to be, but holding a lot of that negative just doesn’t work. Eventually, things reached a new breaking point.

    I can’t quite pinpoint exactly what my wake-up call was, but I started to realize just how negative I was thinking and allowing it to spiral.

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    Opening Up and Seeking Help

    This was one of the most difficult things for me to write and share openly because I think it makes me sound like a complete hypocrite or fraud. Then I would beat myself up even more because I would think about how I sound like a brat because there are others with far less or are worse off.

    My attitude needed to change on so many levels.

    “While chatting with a friend through some of these issues, he asked me a very interesting question: ‘When you’re meeting with people, what are they picking up from the conversation?’ ‘What do you mean?’ I asked. He said, ‘How are people feeling after meeting you? What sort of vibe are you giving off?’ I don’t know why these particular questions made me stop and think for a minute about how I was interacting with people, but they did.”

    A lot of my internal struggles and negativity were probably showing without me even really knowing it. You can only hide sadness and depression and anger and resentment so much. It comes through in some way or another. It was after that conversation that I started to seriously reassess my attitude and how it was impacting my progress.

    A Life-Changing Book

    “The same friend sent me a book the very next day, ‘Today Matters’ by John Maxwell. Initially, I thought to myself, ‘Oh no, I’m not a self-help guy! I’m the one who helps other people!’ What an ego, right? But the truth is, I needed help.”

    While the book is loaded with ideas on how to be a better leader, one chapter in particular that stuck with me was all about attitude. As I was reading, I had to put the book down and email my friend a thank you as I held back tears. I was moved. Finally! I felt something in my bones that I hadn’t felt in many years. It was the same exact feeling I got when I decided I wanted to work in fitness, and magazines, and media, and content.

    Creating a Daily Attitude Readjustment Project

    I decided to start my own daily attitude readjustment project. Here it is:

    • This is my daily attitude readjustment project
    • My attitude discipline every day will be to read this document every morning.
    • I will forget all of the bad things that happen to me.
    • I will see the positive in all work assignments or projects — no matter how difficult or daunting.
    • I will look for the positive in people and trust more.
    • I will stop using negative words.
    • I will recognize my depressive tendencies and acknowledge things I am grateful for.

    While I obviously am far from perfect and can’t always shake bad or negative thoughts, at least this morning ritual got me off on the right foot. Some mornings were tough, I didn’t want to read it, I didn’t want to believe its power for some reason, but truth be told, almost immediately after putting this into place, I was significantly more productive, was far less depressed, and more and more positive things were happening in my life.

    The Power of Consistency

    I started working more, making more money again, and my workouts were getting back on track. Fast forward and I even derailed from reciting my daily attitude readjustment messages, and sure enough, I noticed I started going negative again. So I started back up, and felt immediately better.

    It’s actually quite unbelievable how a paragraph of words can alter my perspective and as a result start moving in a positive direction again.

    A Suggestion for Everyone

    I highly suggest everyone starts their own daily attitude readjustment project.

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  • Conquering the Confusion: Practical Strategies to Manage Anxiety and Stress

    Conquering the Confusion: Practical Strategies to Manage Anxiety and Stress

    Are you feeling overwhelmed by the weight of anxiety and stress? You’re not alone. These powerful emotions can disrupt your days and leave you frantically searching for relief. Here, we dive straight into practical strategies and insights that can help you manage anxiety and stress. From understanding their triggers to exploring treatment options, learn how to regain control of your well-being.

    This piece is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or manage any illness. If you’re in need of help, contact your doctor immediately.

    Key Takeaways

    • Anxiety disorders are persistent and can significantly interfere with daily activities, manifesting through a variety of physical and psychological symptoms, including dizziness, palpitations, and intense worry, gastrointestinal distress, and more.
    • Stress is a physiological response to challenges and can become chronic, leading to serious health issues like heart disease. Recognizing the signs and triggers of both stress and anxiety is critical for effective management and preventing physical symptoms and mental health conditions.
    • Treatment options for stress and anxiety include medical care and therapy, with cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) being highly effective. Implementing self-help strategies, making lifestyle adjustments, and building social support are essential for managing and preventing excessive anxiety.

    Understanding Anxiety Disorders and Their Impact

    Illustration of a person feeling anxious and overwhelmed

    Anxiety can encompass a state of intense fear and apprehension beyond just the occasional worry. Living with anxiety disorders, which are categorized as mental health conditions, may mean constantly feeling restless, even when there is no cause or reason to feel so, leading it become difficult for those affected by them in everyday life routines. This type of psychological disturbance commonly begins during adolescence but has been known to last into adulthood too. While specific causes remain unknown, stress-inducing events (such as trauma) combined with hereditary aspects could be possible risk factors that contribute towards developing an anxiety disorder such as panic attacks, generalized problems and social anxieties etc. Fortunately, various treatments exist designed specifically to manage these nerve wracking feelings by lessening amounts of hormones created under stressful circumstances within the body.

    Recognizing Anxiety Symptoms

    Recognizing the signs and symptoms of anxiety is a first step towards its successful management. Anxiety can affect not only psychological wellbeing, but also physical health with results such as dizziness, exhaustion, pounding heart rate or irregular heartbeat patterns, muscle tension and aches, trembling or shaking, migraines, etc.

    The psychological side effects may be experienced by feelings of apprehension/unease along with fear that something threatening could occur soon plus an increased pulse rate – all linked to the body’s reaction to stress. An inability for concentration coupled up with worries about negative outcomes arising from certain events ahead are common, as are irrational fears. This state can heavily diminish quality level life.

    When Anxiety Becomes a Disorder

    Stress can trigger anxiety, but when does it become a disorder? Anxiety develops into an illness once the distress is no longer manageable and begins to impair normal life. Think of being so overwhelmed that you struggle doing everyday tasks like going out with friends or working, this signifies the transformation of regular stress into an anxiety problem. Other signs include strong emotionality, physical reactions, and having difficulty functioning normally due to intensity in worries. If such symptoms are persistent, then professional help should be sought for potential development of mental health difficulties related to anxiety. Fortunately, there are useful treatment options available which may bring relief from severe tension or even full-blown anxiety disorders.

    Deciphering Stress: The Body’s Reaction to Pressure

    Stress can hold you back

    Stress is an often-used term to express the feeling of having too much going on, but it’s actually a physical reaction in response to challenges. This could be anything from tough and demanding job, responsibilities and taking tests, all the way down to even driving around town quickly. Although sometimes stress can benefit us by pushing our productivity levels, over time this accumulated strain may result in mental health issues such as exhaustion or sleep disorder. Ignore for long enough and depression along with more serious medical conditions like heart disease can develop. If you have recently been experiencing headaches or disturbances while sleeping paired with constant fatigue, these are probably signs that your body has had enough pressure put upon it through excessive and prolonged forms of stress so try for better results by reducing them.

    Identifying Chronic Stress Signs

    The term chronic stress is used to describe a state of ongoing, long-term tension. This type of pressure causes symptoms such as fatigue, headaches and difficulty sleeping – much like being stuck in an eternal traffic jam when you’re running late for something important. Being exposed to this kind of strain can have grave consequences on our health which include disturbances with the immune system, disruption within our digestive processes or effects hindering growth and reproduction functions, even leading to brain atrophy over time. That’s why recognizing signs indicating high levels of stress is vital so that it may be addressed before causing damage down the line.

    Stress Triggers vs. Anxiety Triggers

    Managing stress and anxiety successfully requires recognizing what triggers them. Stress is usually caused by outside pressures, like the death of someone close to you, divorce, joblessness or having a tight timeline at work/in your life. Anxiety can be internal in origin with no external reason – for example feeling nervous or scared about an unseen health issue or something which might not even take place but still creates uneasiness leading to certain physical sensations such as chest pain, difficulty breathing heavily, dizziness, rapid heart rate, tremors, sweating, etc. Both types cause unpleasant symptoms so it’s important to understand their origins that help in better management.

    The Interplay Between Stress and Anxiety

    Illustration of the interplay between stress and anxiety

    Stress and anxiety are closely connected, in that when one is present it can lead to the other. In its simplest form, stress would be an immediate response to a threat, while anxiety can develop from this due to prolonged periods of distress. For example, if someone has been anxious about giving a presentation at work, they may continue feeling uneasy even after delivering their speech. Something known as chronic stress which has potential implications on overall health including increased risk for developing mental disorders such as anxiety. Common symptoms experienced by those stressed or suffering with mild forms of worry include elevated heart rate, sweating and jitteriness, signs illustrating both conditions need a unified approach for treatment.

    How Stress Can Trigger Anxiety

    When it comes to anxiety disorders, understanding the relationship between stress and anxiety is vital. Stress activates both the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis and sympathetic adrenal medullary (SAM) axis, which triggers a person’s flight or fight response leading to feelings of fear and worry – consequently causing high levels of tension known as ‘anxiety’. Acute episodes that cause extreme distress can induce symptoms such as deep apprehension, feeling powerless coupled with recurring memories from traumatic events while experiencing an emotional disconnection in one’s dreams. This association between the stress response and its resulting effect on mental health should be recognized for successful management against any form of associated anxieties.

    The Flight Response in Both Stress and Anxiety

    When it comes to stress and anxiety, the flight response is the body’s natural way of protecting itself from any potential danger. This causes a rush in adrenaline which activates the sympathetic nervous system leading to physical symptoms such as increased heart rate and breathing due to an excretion of stress hormones.

    While these two states may evoke this same reaction, they are not identical. Worry over general threats might form anxieties associated with stressful events even when there isn’t real immediate risk – unlike conventional stresses reacting quickly like dodging oncoming cars – making clear how important it is for us to recognize between them correctly.

    Navigating Treatment Options

    Small groups can help with stress and anxiety

    For individuals who are dealing with stress and anxiety, there is hope that these conditions can be managed. Medical care can be utilized to address specific symptoms and any underlying physical issues or illnesses associated with them. As well, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) has proven very effective in treating mental health related problems by helping people alter their negative thinking patterns and behaviors. With such options available for managing the impact of stress and anxiety on daily life, it’s possible to lead a calmer existence once again.

    Role of Therapy in Managing Stress and Anxiety

    Stress and anxiety can be difficult to overcome, but therapy provides the roadmap to help those struggling find their way back. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is particularly beneficial for managing these conditions by assessing situations that cause stress, working on altering unhelpful thoughts or patterns of behavior, and breaking out of negative thought cycles. With CBT’s array of tools at your disposal, you are better equipped than ever before to take control over your life again when dealing with these tough emotions. In essence, it gives us a compass so we don’t get lost in our troubles any longer. This allows individuals the guidance they need create calmness even during times filled with emotional turbulence.

    Self-Help Strategies for Everyday Life

    practice mindfulness everyday

    Stress and anxiety can be effectively managed in daily life by incorporating self-help strategies such as physical activity, relaxation exercises, time management, and engaging in hobbies. Through implementing these techniques into one’s lifestyle, it is possible to reduce stress levels significantly, preventing excessive anxiety. Physical exercise offers great benefits when tackling stress. Not only does it lower the hormones associated with tension, but also boosts overall mood whilst adding an extra element of routine into your day-to-day activities. Consequently, this enables a positive change towards managing stress and anxiety successfully within everyday living situations.

    Incorporating Physical Activity and Adequate Sleep

    To reduce stress and manage anxiety, physical activity has been proven to be highly effective. Moderate activities such as running, cycling, yoga or strength training can help lower cortisol levels while increasing endorphins production at the same time. This is like a natural remedy for tension reduction in your body and mind. Check out our 35+ free workout plans for different goals and ability levels and start managing stress and anxiety.

    Similarly, having good quality sleep of about 7 to 8 hours on an everyday schedule could assist with controlling stressful emotions as well. Obtaining sufficient rest may enable our bodies to recover along with regulating hormones related to distress. It bolsters cognitive functioning as well as replenishing energy reserves, just think of this process as resetting yourself both physically and mentally every single day. To improve your sleep, try these 10 proven-techniques.

    Practicing Mindfulness and Breathing Exercises

    Mindfulness and breathing exercises are great self-help strategies for managing stress and reducing anxiety symptoms. Practicing mindfulness promotes focusing on the present moment without judgement, which in turn decreases both stress levels and anxiety. This technique lets us take a break from all of life’s chaos while still finding inner peace.

    Breathing techniques have proven to be beneficial for controlling fears as they can remind our brains about relaxation, activating the parasympathetic nervous system thus lowering fear indicators even further. These simple practices could come in handy whenever you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by things out of your control or surrounded by stressful feelings. It is an effective way to let go of what’s causing these discomforts at any time or place possible. To start a mindfulness practice, check out our guide to breathwork.

    Lifestyle Adjustments to Prevent Excessive Anxiety

    Making positive lifestyle changes is an effective approach to limiting levels of stress and anxiety. This includes exercising regularly, having a nutritious diet and getting enough sleep. Choosing actions which promote your wellbeing can aid in managing both tension and worry better.

    Relaxation techniques like time management activities or hobbies are key strategies for reducing strain while preventing unnecessary anxiety too – they’re not one-time solutions but long term adjustments which will help manage pressure plus unease over the course of time.

    Building Resilience Through Social Support

    Social support plays a pivotal role in creating resilience, and dealing with stress and anxiety. It forms an effective barrier to tackle negative occurrences by providing:

    • the possibility of building stronger relationships;
    • feelings of community involvement;
    • appropriate means for facing difficult times without falling into despair or depression ;

    And, lessening tension associated with mental health concerns. Having someone around as emotional back up while tackling adversity makes it easier to get through anything that comes your way. To construct this kind of reliable net, take part in activities like group workouts and/or group runs, engaging in worthwhile projects along others who share similar interests, and staying away from destructive interactions. These steps taken together form foundation blocks towards having powerful supporters during stressful phases improving psychological wellbeing significantly. For more mental health support, check out the journal on fearfulgiant.com.

    Creating a Balanced Life to Manage Stress

    Living a life of balance, with the right combination of eating well, exercising regularly and keeping an eye on personal needs, can have a big impact in terms of reducing stress. This means striking a balance between work and rest as well as times to be socially active versus solitary pursuits. It enables you to cope better with anxiety and gives them the tools they need to stay healthy mentally.

    In order for this balanced lifestyle approach to work effectively, it is necessary not only look at what you should do, but also consider what one should avoid such as drinking too much alcohol or smoking cigarettes. Both contribute towards one another. Stressing out your mental health is best avoided if possible when trying to handle difficult feelings and emotions responsibly alongside guidance from professionals who specialize in such matters. Staying off screens excessively helps alleviate pressure, which allows us to enjoy our lives more fully, something that contributes hugely towards overall wellbeing. Start optimizing your life, take a look at what a perfect day for brain & body performance looks like.

    A Long-Term Fight Against Stress and Anxiety

    Stress and anxiety can be hard to manage without the proper knowledge, but with the right approach one can learn how to navigate their way through. Knowing about anxiety effects, being aware of symptoms that come from chronic stress, understanding why these two are interconnected and looking into possible treatments as well as lifestyle changes all play a role in helping make them more manageable parts of life rather than insurmountable issues. In essence, it’s not about completely eliminating stress or anxiety from our lives but learning how we can deal better when faced with them so we may lead balanced and fulfilling lives.

    Frequently Asked Questions

    How is stress related to anxiety?

    Stress is an exertion made on the mind or body, while anxiety refers to a unique reaction in response to stress – marked by long-term uneasiness and fear. Even after the cause of worry has gone away, signs of generalized anxiety disorder can still remain present.

    How to calm down anxiety?

    For those dealing with anxiety, certain calming activities can help reduce stress and strengthen emotional strength. Diaphragmatic breathing, simple stretching exercises, positive self-talk or guided imagery are all useful techniques to create a more relaxed state. Music therapy and taking the time to immerse yourself in nature can also be beneficial for soothing your mind. As well as guided meditations which deepen relaxation levels. All of these measures will make it easier to manage anxious feelings better by promoting peace within oneself.

    What are 4 signs of stress and anxiety?

    Stress and anxiety can have an array of signs such as digestive issues, tension in the muscles, trouble sleeping or concentrating and a bad temper. If these manifestations go unchecked, they may even lead to a panic disorder or attacks brought on by said stress or anxiety.

    How can I stop stress and anxiety?

    In order to decrease stress and anxiety, it is important to prioritize exercise, cut out bad habits like drinking alcohol or smoking tobacco, as well as doing relaxation exercises. It’s good practice for one’s mental health to obtain enough sleep on a regular basis, maintain a nutritious diet plan, and be surrounded by supportive individuals.

    At what point does anxiety become a disorder?

    When social anxiety first reaches a point where it negatively impacts one’s daily life, the need for professional support to address its accompanying symptoms becomes necessary. If left unmanaged, this form of anxiety can develop into an overall disorder.

  • Q&A: Fitness Meets Therapy according to CooperFit founder and entrepreneur Ryan Cooper

    Q&A: Fitness Meets Therapy according to CooperFit founder and entrepreneur Ryan Cooper

    “Variety breeds fun by nature. It’s the unknown. It’s the adventure. It’s amazing. Launching CooperFit has brought to life the famous mantra that when you do what you love, you won’t work a day in your life.”

    From leaning into the expansion of his heart as a father, to making an impact through giving back to global charities, Ryan Cooper has created a globally accessible product that enables access to mental and physical health for people looking to elevate their lives from anywhere in the world. Shaped by his experiences rooted in both failures and successes, he’s using his platform to have a greater impact on the community around him — inspiring a multifaceted approach to wellness and self-love.

    Learn more about @CooperFitOfficial and sign up for the next 6-Week Intensive kicking off on September 13th.

    MEET RYAN COOPER

    Location: New York City
    Certifications: Pilates Mat, NCSF PT, NLP- Neuro Linguistic Programming

    HFP: What inspires you and how has it shaped launching the CooperFit 6-Week Intensive programs?

    Ryan Cooper: ERGHHH!! SO many things! My daughter and her zest for life! My clients who are breaking through boundaries and bravely facing limiting beliefs or negative habits. I know for myself, I can see inspiration in my walk to the corner store. The guys doing great work on the external finishings of a home, the kid skateboarding in the park and practicing a new trick. It’s everywhere when we walk presently through life. I never want to be absent of that, and that inspiration has fueled me to build a business that has health, wellness, and life coaching at its core. While my everyday life of wearing several different hats in fashion, acting, and parenthood has reaped challenges and rewards, all of this coupled with the unknown brought on by COVID-19 had made it apparently clear a different kind of health and wellness community needed to be shared with the world.

    HFP: Why is mental and physical health important to living an impactful life?

    RC: “Know thyself”! If we don’t understand what is driving us we will constantly slip into patterns that don’t serve our end goal or those around us. I believe fitness should have a holistic-, mind and body approach. If the only focus is physicality we move toward narcissism, and if we neglect our body we miss out on endorphins and discipline that is so important to our mental clarity and ability to enjoy life to its fullest.

     

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    HFP: How is CooperFit different from any other program?

    RC: The program focuses just as much on the mental aspect of health and wellness because physical fitness is tied intrinsically into our mental state. The way we integrate 1:1 coaching and communal growth brings an authentic and encouraging approach to a space that can often feel intimidating to tackle.

    The CooperFit levels cover not just physical exercise and flexibility (strength workouts and yoga) but also mental elasticity inducing techniques like (meditation and breath work) along with thought provoking group discussion and focused one to one coaching.

    HFP: Why did you decide to get into coaching?

    RC: I believe that in life we have to lean into the skills that we have inherently been gifted with. As a ⅔ on the enneagram I am almost equally an achiever and a carer. And in my work I feel the same way, if I can achieve results while helping others… there is no better way for me to go through life.

    HFP: What was the process like for you to get there?

    RC: The road always presents itself, even when we are trying to run from it. The more I dove into “bettering myself” emotionally, physically and vocationally, the more I discovered my passion for helping others who were blocked to achieve their goals.

     

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    HFP: How would you describe your training philosophy?

    RC: My training philosophy is simply to trust yourself more. The more we trust ourselves and listen to our heart and body, the more we will have the ability to discern if we can push ourselves and stop being lazy! Or, we may really hear, “you should take a rest day”, because we’re burnt out.

    HFP: What about when it comes to nutrition?

    RC: I grew up with food being unimportant, in the sense that it wasn’t meant to be fun or flavorful but a means to fuel you through the day. It wasn’t till I got older that I was able to tune into hearing what my body was craving and why! Nowadays food is a key indicator for my internal life and needs, it’s fun, and is so much more satisfying when I know why my body is asking for it.

    HFP: How about your mental fitness?

    RC: I am lucky in some respects to have come from the school of thought, “work harder and not smarter”! This gives a grit to dealing with life that I can now wholly appreciate, while giving myself space and Grace to learn to work smarter. But grit is not the only thing I say is important when it comes to mental fitness! I believe as our bodies need rest and nutrition, our minds do too, along with Joy, excitement and challenges.

    HFP: What do you hope to do in (or bring to) the fitness community?

    RC: I hope to continue to inspire my clients and the industry to just be their best selves, not for a prepackaged understanding of what health or physicality is supposed to look like. But what freedom being truly healthy can bring to our lifestyles, as well as our mental and emotional well being.

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  • How to Conquer Self-Limiting Beliefs

    How to Conquer Self-Limiting Beliefs

    We’re dedicating the month of April to mental fitness. Every Sunday, we’ll be releasing a new feature designed to help you strengthen the power of your mind with Klay S. Williams (@planawithklay) a transformational change agent, author and podcast host who specializes in courageous wellness conversations in the media and corporate spaces. Our topics include: manifesting a breakout moment, overcoming the unexpected, discovering the hidden benefits of meditation, and conquering self-limiting beliefs. Here, the final article in the series: how to conquer self-limiting beliefs.

    How to Conquer Self-Limiting Beliefs

    Most of us have dreams—big dreams—whether they include reaching a certain rung on the ladder of your career, having a happy, fulfilling romantic relationship, or achieving a particular fitness goal. But if your present life looks nothing like your dream life, self-limiting beliefs could be to blame. “A lot of us know what we want, but self-limiting beliefs come in and say, ‘I can’t have that’ or “I’m not worthy of that”  or “I don’t deserve those things,” says Klay. “So you’re limited in your present moment and not able to go forward to any of the things that you really want because of those self-limiting beliefs. You limit the possibilities. You limit the manifestation moment.”

    Beyond your own ambition, self-limiting beliefs can impact how others perceive you as well.

    “We train people how to treat us,” says Klay. “When we limit what we feel that we’re deserving of, what we’re worthy of, we kind of receive that.” Here, two ways to break the cycle of limiting beliefs and create the life you deserve:

    Dig into your past.

    Klay suggests giving this some serious thought: If you’re being completely honest with yourself in a nonjudgmental way, in a way that’s not blaming other people, what is the root of your self-limiting beliefs? Where do they come from? “Use your life as the blueprint and comb through your past,” says Klay. “Normally, there’s a teachable moment somewhere in our childhood or adolescence that gave us that first pebble to say, ‘Oh, this is how you should be treated, this is what I should accept.’ To be able to make that identification point, you get to strengthen yourself by knowing that it was never yours to take on. You’re able to go back and have a clear conversation with yourself and say, ‘This is what I was taught and I now can make a different decision.’”

    Put it on paper.

    On one side of your page write: What is the limiting belief? On the other side write: What is the opposite of that (what would happen if you believed in yourself)? Once you have one or more pairs written down, draw a line—a make-believe bridge if you will—between the self-limiting belief and the full belief. What is one step that you can take that will connect that bridge? “If I’m someone with a self-limiting belief that I can only receive the salary that I’m making, I can only stay in this project management role, the other side of that is, ‘Oh, I really want to be a managing director,’” says Klay. “The bridge maker, then, is asking for support and understanding what are the resources or the connections you need to make in order to be that. 

    It’s taking a step in the direction that will help you accomplish that goal by naming what the self-limiting belief is at the beginning.”

    Hold yourself accountable. 

    “A major mistake that many of us make when attempting to conquer self-limiting beliefs is to begin a process without creating any form of accountability,” says Klay. “Accountability supports us in having a greater sense of discipline and commitment towards our end goal while reducing the risk of victimization,” he adds. “For instance, if your goal is to lose 50 lbs and you’ve done the work to identify that the origins of your self-limiting belief came from an unhealthy relationship with a parent who was verbally abusive about your weight as a child, you’re now able to understand that your weight loss goals must be for your own benefit and desires, without the need of proving anything to your parent. To hold yourself accountable, you can make the commitment by creating discipline in your nutrition, scheduling workouts, and carving out time to meditate or envision your end goal in peace. And if there is a set back at any point, accountability gives you permission to refocus and start again, without falling prey to victimization or pity.”

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    Disclaimer:

    This information is for educational purposes only and is not clinical medical advice. Please consult your healthcare and mental health practitioners prior to implementing any lifestyle change.

  • Discover the Hidden Benefits of Meditation

    Discover the Hidden Benefits of Meditation

    We’re dedicating the month of April to mental fitness. Every Sunday, we’ll be releasing a new feature designed to help you strengthen the power of your mind with Klay S. Williams (@planawithklay) a transformational change agent, author and podcast host who specializes in courageous wellness conversations in the media and corporate spaces. Our topics include: manifesting a breakout moment, overcoming the unexpected, discovering the hidden benefits of meditation, and conquering self-limiting beliefs. Next up:the hidden benefits of meditation.

    Discover the Hidden Benefits of Meditation

    Everyone knows meditation reduces stress, makes you more peaceful, and offers clarity. Those are the obvious pieces. However, Klay notes that there are even more benefits to be had. “Meditation is like a secret surfboard that allows us to ebb and flow over each wave that comes in our life,” he says. Read our conversation with him below on all the reasons you should start a meditation practice, plus the practical ways to do just that.

    HFP: How did you discover meditation? 

    Klay S. Williams: I discovered it through one of my friends who’s a yoga teacher. She juxtaposes theological teachings with the power of meditation and created this whole new insight called Spirit Flow. 

    HFP: Why do you think it’s so difficult for people?

    KSW: I think people are trying to be perfect and get it right rather than allowing themselves to just have the experience. I hear all the time from other people, and it was an issue for myself being a perfectionist, [that they’re] feeling like I’m not getting it. I can’t quiet my mind. I can’t still my mind. And sometimes it’s actually okay not to, to allow the different things that are flowing through your mind flow. Once I was able to take myself off of trying to be perfect, trying to get it right, and then just being okay with what was flowing through my mind is when I was able to quiet my spirit and quiet my thoughts, leaving that idea of perfection behind.

    HFP: What are the hidden benefits of mediation?

    KSW: The hidden part of it for me is creating a pathway to make greater life decisions and greater shifts. And what I mean by that is every time I’m in a spirit of meditating, I’m not seeking to be in control of any of the answers. I don’t know how to explain this but big picture problems are almost solved as soon as I’m done meditating. This hidden benefit has allowed me to fast track things in my life. 

    Meditation helps us to be balanced within ourselves and when we find balance, answers come. When we operate from a free flowing, confident and trusting space of balance, chances are the breakout moment will be lasting and not short-lived. 

    It also helps us absorb the aftershocks of resistance that will inevitably come our way. We are planted like a mighty Sequoia tree at the core of our foundation. For the average person something happens, a moment of resistance, and they are blown off of their path. A person that practices meditation is less likely to be swayed by the uncomfortable winds and storms of life. Even if they are, meditation helps make this experience temporary. She/he emerges again on the path of purpose and their dreams.

    HFP: What are your tips for people that want to start a consistent meditation practice?

    KSW: Download apps. Headspace is my number one favorite because it’s a non-judgemental way to meditate and meets people where they are versus trying to have people be forced into a mold. Calm is another really great app for meditation. Also Oprah & Deepak’s 21-Day Meditation Experience is a very good one because it starts with a potential theme of a problem. And then the meditation addresses it at the end. I also have a book, 365 Plan A Nightly Meditations, that can serve as a guide. 

    Whatever way you choose to meditate, have it on your calendar with an exact date and time every single day so it’s a routine. So, it’s popping up on your laptop, it’s popping up on your cell phone, it’s on your hard calendar as well. Get into that repetitious state and at least do it for 21 days to form the habit to support you in that level of consistency and that level of practice.

    HFP: Would there be a benefit to maybe just committing to five minutes a day?

    KSW: Totally. If you can do it at the same time within just five minutes a day, it would be life-changing.

    HFP: Are there any signs that people can recognize that it’s actually working?

    KSW: Disposition. You notice that you’re less irritable with other people. You have a greater empathy with yourself and other folks, mistakes that you make, mistakes that other people make are not as annoying. When things happen that are unexpected, you’re not upset as much. Your stress levels are down with the unexpected. You’re able to make much more clear decisions. You are much better tapped into your intuition. It’s very clear to you in terms of what your answers are to questions that may have been a little bit difficult to solve before you started meditation.

    Photography credit:
    Andre L. Perry
    @perrylperry

    Disclaimer:

    This information is for educational purposes only and is not clinical medical advice. Please consult your healthcare and mental health practitioners prior to implementing any lifestyle change.

  • 3 new year’s resolutions that don’t include diet and exercise

    3 new year’s resolutions that don’t include diet and exercise

    Any workout or diet-related post during January gets more attention than any other month. Traffic to HFP is always at its highest, gyms are packed, trainers make their killing, and all the latest diet books and workout plans hit the market. Once the new year rolls around, it’s all about the fitness resolutions. Some succeed, and the rest fade away until the next tropical vacation comes up or it’s “summer body” season again. That’s how it goes.

    If muscle and strength or endurance and athletics is your primary goal, then check out the New Year’s Resolution Success Checklist—it has over 30 workout programs to keep you busy for the next 3 years and an approach to food that will remind you that all “diets” are just marketing. Plus, there are a dozen other stories that will help you with everything from nagging injuries and stress to bad sleep and poor productivity.

    Now, if you’re interested in growing more than your physical muscles, read on for a few resolutions we’re working on at HFP.

    1. Let’s focus on our mental fitness.

    No one needs to tell you that negative energy kills inspiration, motivation, productivity, and a million other things. What’s worse: It just piles on more unless it’s under control.

    Instead of worrying about hitting a new personal record for something fitness related, let’s focus on addressing moments when we’re tense, overwhelmed, or agitated. While it may be easier said than done, awareness is always the necessary first step.

    Check out our piece on strengthening your creative muscles, for tips to calming down upstairs.

    And if you’re noticing that you’re feeling down more often than not, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Without mental fitness, physical fitness is pointless.

    2. Let’s enrich—and escape from—our feeds.

    Start being more judicious with who you follow. Try following real news stories and the people who are delivering them. Even then, take breaks from time to time. We like to “digital detox” regularly for as few as several minutes up to hours at a time. It could be one of the tricks you need to sleep better at night.

    3. Let’s try to give more.

    Instead of asking, “is this worth my time?” or “what do I get out of this?”, think about how it could make a difference for someone else.

    Giving doesn’t mean it’s monetary. There’s lots of ways to give: time, attention, love. Giving more yourself will create a chain reaction causing others to give more.